… But maybe that
is a good thing?
Last week I
attended the North West Yearly Meeting for Friends which is an
Evangelical
division of the Quaker/Friends denomination. Recently, I have been persuaded by
Quakers and have been thinking that they are a different breed of Christian, a
more humble and a more willing kind of Christian to discuss and dialogue. Do
not get me wrong, I am not looking for a perfect Church, a perfect
denomination, or a perfect representation of Jesus. I get that we are all
flawed and are all poor examples in one way or another. I had hoped that
Quakers might be a bit different then what my general experience of
Christianity has been, but at the end of the day Quakers are really just like
ever other Christian. Here’s why…
The issue before
the NWYM was the issue of human sexuality. This is an issue that all
Evangelical Churches are facing, and it is one that will not go away until we
get it right. There is a right outcome for this issue which is just, moral, and
faithful to a God who creates us as His children, and this outcome is to affirm
LGBT persons and to see them as no different then the traditional heterosexual
persons whom
Christianity currently favors. This is a difficult conclusion for
Christians to accept as many people relate to their faith differently, and many
“feel” threatened or “attacked” if this issue is to be given a platform for
consideration. Progress happens slowly when you have to appeal to the consensus
of lesser minds. And I do say that rather matter of fact-ly, because in their
hearts they have a big and deep love for their God. They are simply used to a
certain way things ought to be. Unity of spirit means being able to find a way
for issues of conscience and issues of authority to coexist with one another,
and for mutual dialogue to occur between those who have placed their stake.
A year ago, or
so, one of the churches involved in the NWYM came out as affirming LGBT
persons. This clashed with the current Faith and Practice language which
prohibits it as sexually immoral. Some called for this church to leave the
NWYM. Some called for a revision of the Faith and Practice. Since Quakers tend
to err on the side of grace it was believed that the best course would be to
see if a revision could be made to the Faith and Practice that was more
tempered with grace.
A year passes and
this year the revision is presented to the NWYM and in my personal opinion it
was a great example of creativity and integrity. It preserved the old way of still
presenting homosexuality as a distortion of God’s creation (which it is in a
matter of fact sense), and it did away with language that overtly suggested
condemnation, like sin and immorality. Thus it was neither affirming for LGBT
or condemning. It was in a sense, neutral and matter of fact. Its positive
contribution was to promote sexual wholeness in Christ. So in a sense, it was
perfect because diplomatically neither side was getting what they wanted, and
both sides could be happy that the other side was unhappy.
The revision
failed miserably. And it is unclear why. This is the problem I have with
most
Christians. They are simply not smart enough to understand the mechanisms in
play. In a zero sum game either those who oppose LGBT or those who affirm LGBT
will be left at the end making the decisions and deciding the policy. It is
clear that there is a zero sum game between LGBT inclusion and exclusion. Those
who want to include feel threatened by those who want to exclude, and those who
want to exclude also feel threatened by those who want to include. Thus, to
avoid a zero sum game, a non-zero sum solution must present itself.
This revision was
a non-zero sum solution. The only reason to dismiss it would be to
prefer a
zero sum game as opposed to a non-zero sum game. Or, the solution provided to
achieve non-zero sumness seems less beneficial then the outcome which could
happen from remaining in a zero sum game. Typically, if a person thinks he can
win he is less likely to compromise. But the problem now is that no one has
won. And the non-zero sum solution was shot down. Here is the rub. There is no
chance for a zero sum game to actually happen, or the zero sum game that will
play out cannot possibly meet the expectations of any single party. Those on one
side who want to simply cut themselves off from the other side will not ever
convince the controlling members that a zero sum game is more profitable. And
the controlling members will not apply the rules in a zero sum fashion. Thus,
we are in a disastrous stalemate. The only way to achieve non-zero sumness is
through dishonesty.
Those who
complained that the proposed revision was too unclear were being dishonest in
that what they really wanted was something clear enough to cut out people from
their group, and those who are now entrusted with “enforcing” the Faith and
Practice must now be dishonest in not doing anything about what Faith and
Practice is telling them. Both sides have to now be mutually dishonest in order
to achieve their goals.
This lack of
strategy on the part of all parties involved is disheartening, but it is not
entirely without precedent. It simply means that Quakers are like every other
Christian group who cannot maintain a vision for who they are supposed to be.
The leadership should have never let the old statement stand as a possible
outcome if the revision was rejected. It should have been an either-or outcome
where either the revision is accepted, or the statement “we are not united on
this” is added to the current statement. It is incredibly unwise to move
forward with a revision if it is not agreed upon that the current statement is
insufficient.
It was a
strategic error for the conservatives who want to cut out members from
the
group to hide behind a seeming “unclarity” for the revision, because now they
are unhappy participants on all fronts. They were not happy with the revision,
and now they are not happy that the revision was rejected. This error was
shared with the liberals who wanted to pass the revision. They equally protested
the revision arguing that it did not affirm LGBT persons, and they protested
when the revision was rejected knowing that no official LGBT discrimination
would happen to them.
It is unfortunate
that a church has to sit in limbo because no agreement could be reached on this
matter. It is unfortunate that the leadership now has to accept the burden of being
dishonest, and that the conservatives and liberals now have to be dishonest as
well. This is the kind of Christianity that made me become an atheist. This is
the kind of faith that turns good people into supporters of dishonesty and
manipulation. The revision may not have been the ideal of good and honest
behavior, but it was a hope. It was a hope that people were willing to lay down
their arms and begin building once again.
But this is what
Christianity has become on an institutional level. I wish it was the other way
around, but the God’s honest truth is that good faithful people have become
sucked into a culture war that is controlled by political and corporate powers.
This issue has been high-jacked by a cult of personality and all the while
those truly benefiting are those in power. When a Christian ministry that helps
children announced that they were changing their policy on hiring homosexuals
they lost tons of money in pledges. This is not simply an issue of how to read
the Bible. This is an issue with dollar signs.
So Quakers are
just like every other Christian, but is that such a bad thing? We would like
some “hedge” of protection upon the namesake of Christianity to show some kind
of protection from beyond. But the reality is that when put in a corner we
respond just the same. I only hope that we find out who and how we got here
before it is too late. I have good reasons to think that this hope is well
suited.
I did see things
that gave me hope. The superintendent said that Jesus did not have a
conventional Father and that we should open up the Gospel to as many people as
possible. I saw conservatives desiring unity so much that they were willing to
keep discussing the issue until unity could be reached. I saw liberals desiring
unity so much that they wanted to do the same. I saw people listening to each
other. I saw people talking about this issue that I have not seen in an
Evangelical setting. I saw a leadership that was open and honest. I saw a
willingness to take time and be patient as long as needed to stand together.
I did not see the
right answers, the right attitudes, or the right strategies. There was nothing
right about it. All parties involved essentially messed up, made essential
mistakes that basically ruined the success for the proposed initiative, or for
any future resolution to this problem. But in the midst of this, I still saw a
basic commitment to one another. It was wrong, but maybe it was the right kind
of wrong. The kind of wrong you want to be, if you must be wrong.
There is a modern
drive to make religion into this ideological institution, and this goes both
ways. But there is wisdom, humility, and courage in a devotion to
something
which is at times silly, futile, weak, or dumb. There becomes this overriding
desire to stick it out with one another. It is not because we have such a great
rationale or system of belief that makes all others pale in comparison to ours.
It is that we have decided to stay together regardless of the circumstances. It
is perhaps the highest Christian ideal that should stand above all others, and
it is what I saw at this Yearly Meeting. It is called Brotherhood. It may not
make sense, and it may cause us to look dumb from time to time, but Quakers
have it. And I do not see that as a bad thing.
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